so if someone says ur their bf/gf but they say their scared of commitment what does all this really mean?

They not ready

They still looking

They scare of being hurt

could it be that they with u and with some1 else 2?

Could be...But for someone to say i am your g/f or b/f but cant commit is not serious.

When someone wants a relationship with someone they will commit.

My advise is move out quickly while feelings are not tangle in.

whats allyuh definition of commitment?

Staying faithful to one & love that person
Always true, honest & caring to the same one
Looking for more than a relationship in time like marriage in the future.

Yup ... u said it ...

I agree with axe...several reasons con make one a commitment-phobe....sigh.

so what if ur 8 months into the relationship?

relationships are confusing thats y u should just have a buddy yes

In a relationship for it the flourish there must be good communication..Each member must talk to one another...Good or bad...Now i know there is no perfect relationship but the couple must be welling to work it out...Makes no sense one person trying while the other could not care if today is saturday or sunday...


But if something is confusing u must talk it out.

peace out!!



Im not ready to ever be committed to any woman ( no disrespect ladies). I just not ready and cant seem to understand how ppl my age can claim to be committed.

Commitment should never be an age issue but one wanting something more in a relationship....

Ive been in relationships and broke them off for different reasons but ask all the chicks they all say that Im scared of commitment and being with one woman.


May-be they are right because to me commitment in a relationship demeans that I have to almost be available to count all the breaths my woman takes kinda scene and Iman just not ready for that kinda scene. I dont mind being oepn and connected with someone but taking that "next" step IDK I just cant face it head on at all..


Axe just to clear up why I used age, as a teenager anyone will tell you we are fickle as hell, one minute its shoes, colour shirt, what to eat and even who we like. So I see it hard to be committed and faithful when you cant make up your mind.

Not a problem Boom, enjoy life if you not ready dont rush...

u make a lot of sense boom and u r rite

why want to be in a relationship and then suddenly realize you not ready for commitment? why say I love you when you don't even know the meaning of love? why say your heart belongs to someone and they are your everything when you're not sure they are the right one for you? What is the "RIGHT" one? who is SO perfect and flawless in faults and making mistakes? What and who make you feel that 10 years from now you will finally be settled enough and finally find this so called person of your dreams and no one and nothing can tear that apart? Yes you may be financially able to do so, but no one can tell when you meet your match.
I think teenagers should not look for commitment at such a tender age however, but as some stated in this thread, if you think you cant commit just yet, then don't! I agree with you all on that.
Having buddies on the other hand could mean several things, sex buddies, liming buddies etc. nothing can compare to Love though, because it's supposed to be an all in one package lol.
Maybe you all might not understand what am trying to say, but for one, how can you be in relationship and not want to commit? that confuses me,lol
Relationships can be a great thing if the understanding is there and the trust and attention it needs. you cant give a person hopes and then tear them apart because of your own selfish reasons,you can;t lead someone on and then tell them you not ready.(well u can, but that just wont be right) and sooner or later, Karma catches up to you when you figure you find d man or woman you ready to commit to.

I hope i helped in a way and not made things more complicated :)

well said seductress B)

damnn... wellll said seductress ... will u marry me?? :shame: :inlove: :hahaha:

true but some pple say it and realize 2 late cuz maybe at the time they were lonely or whateva

but why just because a person lonely they have to mess up other people's heart and give them false hopes?

Girl *sigh* some people just like that, if they cant be happy then why you others around then kinda attitude yuh know?




It sucks but really without people like that in this world, we wont have value for when that person who really means something in life comes along and shields you from all that bs.

I can't commit

I hav wey too much fun witout labels

See is not only meeeeee!!!


*runs off to show ex gf*

why? commitment shows willing and seriousness...Now i not saying you not..But its nice to look forward to that time of your life.

are u insane ??


LAbels are my downfall ..


ppl think too much of this bf gf stufff seirously ..

I think girls lik to say " my bf blah blah balh"

when its really " de man who I ain't talk to in 2 weeks coz he think's i'm a constant nag"



:hahaha: :hahaha:

yea why r we always considered a nag if we wanna know if allyuh man safe and okay

hmmm.. :think: so they think we're a nag... *darn*
but i don't call and get orn chupid.. i does do it on msn or emails :lol:

lol.. hahaha.... bess by far...

i dont have a problem with commitment at all.. its nice 4 sum one dat u love to be der for u, and for you to be there for them... :) i really dont think anyone wants to get OLD, GRAY WRINKLE and walking with a stick with false teeth in dey mouth and still don't have someone by there side and who actually know.. KNOW them.. and have been by their side, and been there for them through out their life... its a scary thing..

dont forget txting.


but y we a nag if we just chkin 2 see if the ok cuz we care?

so 1 of my friends was like he dont like to argue but him and his gf which is normal and natural cuz they both two stubborn ppl and he said his reason for not committing is if he gotta deal with that for the rest of his life he rather b alone i said go ahead then

exactly!! i don't understand fellars!! they would say we nagging but in true we just wanna know how their day is going and if they are ok!!! and if we do not nag them then they go want to say that their girls not taking them and stuff!!

exactly ent ame

so when i used to have a bf i used to txt just to say hi enjoy ur day and what not thru out the day and then other days when i didnt txt him he used 2 get vex for so

i had to ask him if he fingers were broken

agrees with Amethyst and WiCk3diNTeNti0nzZz!! i wonder if it have guys who does be like this!

fuh reals! if yah ent tex.. or call.. "oh yuh don't care and :blahblah: buh if we tex.. we naggin yuh? huh.. stupes.. i cant understand them nah.

yes baby there are guys out there like that

and yea if its like that whats the point of being in a relationship

fuh reals! i dont see da point either! ... u gots to find a guy who can truly understand you and dotn think yah nagging him if you tex himm.... for all the odders.... :kick: :fu:

:thumbsup:

exactly and sometimes thats hard to find

those guys are rare!