Anon posting vs. private boad

Can we make some more of the boards members only and use anon posting less often. Honestly, I find anon posting ridiculous nad childish. But, if so many boards are public and googlable I understand it. Can we just leave a few public and make the rest members only? i know I would feel more comfortable posting if it was members only.

Why?

What difference does it make whether you 'know' the person's screen name or not?

Also, some of us know each other in real life

bb, hi! how you doin, mama? wjen u comin back home? hows dh and ds?

heh, with all this feedback, u shoulda posted this under anon!

Why?

What difference does it make whether you 'know' the person's screen name or not?

Accountability. If this is a community, and there is accountability for one's words, I want in. If its hefkerus, and a joke, I don't.

BH, BH, IY"H mid summer. Nope, I don't believe in saying something I won't own. Its childish.

So? If you can't say it bshem yourself then maybe you shouldn't say it.

Ah.

I can see what you're referring to.

But it hasn't been used this way. It's been used by people asking for advice with problems they'd rather not own up to.

I'd be disappointed if someone replied as anonymous, unless it included experiences or memories that they could not share otherwise.

I join Julriv in welcoming you back and inquiring after your dh and the not-so-new baby ds.

There is always this issue of weighing how much to keep hidden and how much to expose to the web.

On the one hand, we want enough of the board to be public to attract new members (If a guest comes to check out the site and all they see is a couple of sections, it's less attractive.)
And on the other hand, we want to protect our members' privacy.

As the board grows, and more sub-categories develop, we can consider creating additional sections that are visible to members-only (like we did with TTC, surviving abuse, introductions, and such,) because those areas tend to have a lot of personal info.

Feel free to PM me or Zephyr (or any of the mods) if you have any specific issues that you are concerned about confidentiality.

BH, BH, IY"H mid summer. Nope, I don't believe in saying something I won't own. Its childish.

Sing it, Sistah!

Dude, I am SO glad you are back on here. I forget which side of the Vax issue you are on...heh...I could have used some support over there a little bit ago.

I'd post as anonymous, myself, but I'm not creative enough to have an alias. And I spell womyn in an all too noticable way. I'd have to replace that with "members of the gender with a vagina," but that probably would leave too much room for debate and...

Ug.

Anyways, still davening for you. He's doing well with this transplant, B"H? You are a Super Hero, mama! I have no idea how you did any of this. I had no idea how you were doing it when he was in hospital in the merkaz. That was FRIGGIN amazing, what you did that whole time.

(and all the while, never letting a STRAND of hair show from your techel! )

Are you coming back to your old house? What about the mold situation? I want you all to be in a healthy place. I can't wait to meet your newest adorababy.

Israel awaits.

And so does your castle on the mountain...

(edited to add an inside joke/hot button about some WIGGED out jews, out there.)

I, too, was deeply concerned with the introduction of "Anonymous". My concern was exactly yours (owning one's words), and that this would somehow be abused.

so far this has overwhelmingly been used by members who need help. I still have my reservations about the whole thing, but at the end of the day, if someone needs help with a problem they are too ashamed to admit to, the most important thing is that they get help.

Believe me, if the nature of the community changes and "Anonymous" stops working, I will delete the profile with a smile on my face (did I mention I still have reservations about it?).

Until then, it seems that most of our users agree with me that giving help to a friend in need, even if our friend wants to remain unknown, outweighs other considerations. I completely agree with you that stating an opinion as Anonymous is ridiculous-- and apparently, so does everyone else here because it has not been used in this way in this community. I do not know what has happened in other communities, but here Anonymous is primarily used to get help. Would you cut that channel off?

I just want to add that at first I just didn't give the "anony" thing to much thought ,
but I have noticed that it is used by people looking for help. Now, I do understand the accoutability issue etc; and I think we are trying to have a real(albeit virtual) community here, where you have to get somewhat personal otherwise you're not being real and then it's just no different than other forums with stam Q&A kinda thing.
BUT, I totally understand someone going anon when they are pregnant, need advice and can't yet own up to who they are, due to "the not telling, till it's time thingy". Though, I like to think of us as being there and supporting each other, building a kind of virtual friendship, there are a bunch of you who are real friends and/or family in real life and so that also changes the dynamics a little in that if one of you came forward with asking advice for some preggo related issue at say 6 weeks....then everyone "would know " already.....
So, what I'm trying to say is I think that for pregnant advice being anon could be helpful, and for the rest of stuff I think we should just be honest.

Now, maybe someone would like to take the innitiative and start a thread on why we "don't tell" in the begining, the different customs etc; and maybe more important here on this forum, how we feel about it and our own personal experiences!!!!

gotta go , taking ds 8yr to be tested today....