not sure what to do

[chavs]

Its our anniversary and dh has actually arranged something which is something I always complain that he doesnt. The thing is that he arranged for our kids to stay with their their grandmother (his mum) and his brother from motsei shabbos until tuesday, we'd pick drop them of and pick them up. We could arrange for them to stay from Firday afternoon but I am already nervous about this. Dd has neevr been away for me for this long and its a long time for ds as well. Is it terrible? WIll they be ok? dd is still nursing so will I have to stop nursing after this? Should I tell dh it is to long for them to be away from us?
They do love their grandmother and uncle but I know that when we drop dd off she'll probably cry for me and possibly at bed time as well. In terms of discipline and nighttime caring they are great. If the kids want to they can stay in my mil bed with her, she doesnt mind co-sleeping and although she uses words like naughty and lets them eat more candy and watrch more tv then
I'd like all in all she is a great grandmother and my bil a great uncle who will make sure they are save and cared for and loved and they get spoiled and taken on day trips to the beach and other places.
The other thing is that with dds night time behaviour dh and I havent had time to even finish a convesation and we could really use a good nights sleep so the idea is great. We also dont have regular babysittrs as I dont like leaving them with 15 year old girls I barely know and mil and bil dont have a car and live about 2 1/2 hours away by train (about 1 1/2 hour by car) so we dont get out much on date nights so it would be great.
What is the right thing to do though? Will the kids be ok? Will it be bad for them and our relationship to be away from them for so long?

Any advice would be great!

[Chavelamomela]

First of all, it sounds great! I am sure you and DH will appreciate the special time together without the interruptions and distractions of your children.

It also sounds like your in-laws are terrific, and your kids will be in good hands in their care. Your kids will not suffer by spending time in the care of other loving family members aside from their own parents. Remember - they're not strangers!

As for the nursing, from my understanding, in order for the "2 days without nursing =halachic weaning" to apply, the child had to have the ability to nurse during that time - which is not possible if you're not around. So if the reason for the lack of nursing is simply due to separation, when you reunite you're still allowed to nurse her if she's interested. (but if she goes another 2 days without, then it's a dif't story).

[gr8]

go for it

[LearningFromExperience]

Chavs, they will be FINE. It's even good for them. Attaching to grandparents and other family is key to a person's development, absolutely key.

So is letting one's parents have their space. Very important.

About the nursing ... if it ends here, it ends here. If I were you, I'd try to capitalize on the opportunity. (Oh, in fact I did - I weaned ds7 that way, after a trip where I realized I didn't need to pump.) It has to end sooner or later, yes? This is an easy way to do it, and no, she won't connect your leaving her with stopping to nurse.

Have a wonderful time and happy anniversary!!!

[chavs]

Thank you guys, I can relax now and just look forward to it, we really need this! I feel like whoohooing, I sort of need a break but feel a bad saying that, but I do. Thank you for reassuring me, I wouldnt have been able to relax if I didnt have your reassurance htat its ok and that they'll be fine.
Chavale thank you for the additional info abou nursing, I think I have been old before and forgot.
Lfe, truth is I'd like to wean so if this will somehow end it, I'd be very grateful. I think I am ready, the thought of stopping doesn fill me wih this sadness that the hought of it did even a few months ago, now the thought s sort of just relief. I hope that she wont ask for nursing when I come back, if she does saying no, would be very hard and I'd feel like evil mum.
Anyways, I am looking forward to it, thank you!!! I am gonna thank my dh, he deserves it as well!

[Ima5]

Enjoy! I did this a few years ago and would LOVE to do this again (just with absolutely no practical possibilities...) It can do wonders!

[chavs]

Thank you! So far so good, We are picking the kids up tomorrow, we spoke to them and they sound fine and happy.
I am feeling so relaxed and feel bad to say I dont miss them yet, I am just enjoying sleeping and relaxing and spending time with dh.
I am really happy we did this, thank you!