Title: not weaning but leaving 2yr old for 3 nights
sunny aus - March 13, 2012 01:19 AM (GMT)
my cousin's wedding is in a couple of weeks and i'm planning on going up to sydney for 3 nights (the shabbat before) without my 2yr old.
she still feeds to sleep, and sometimes another feed during the day as well.
i'm not ready to wean completely, so what is the halacha over this?
LearningFromExperience - March 13, 2012 07:04 AM (GMT)
I think that if you're not there it doesn't count
But see what happens, it might turn out that she's actually ready
emunahbutterfly - March 13, 2012 01:29 PM (GMT)
if it is not the child's "choice" than from what i understand it doesn't count. (this is from NJP mag)
sunny aus - March 13, 2012 10:21 PM (GMT)
I thought so.
I don't think N is ready to wean. She'd feed more often if I offered. And I'm not ready to lose this tool.
We have 3 bedtime scenarios.
1. Feed for 10 minutes. She is asleep.
2. She doesn't fall asleep feeding. Hours of overtired getting up, crying, climbing over whichever adult is with her (less frequent since my milk came back after the birth) letting her get up doesn't help, she still generally struggles to get to sleep.
3. Very occasionally she is tired enough that she actually falls asleep on a bed, on her own. But this is rare.
DH claims he'll be fine for 3 nights. I hope so. But unless something magical hapPens and no. 3 starts happening more regularly I'm going to need her to keep feeding.
LearningFromExperience - March 13, 2012 11:18 PM (GMT)
The "something magical" is DH putting her to sleep.
If that happens, you'll want to carry that on for a few more days after you're home. Which may or may not work out.
You never know. People are strange, especially those little ones.
sunny aus - March 14, 2012 01:22 AM (GMT)
We've tried other people putting her tO bed. Lots of times. When I've wanted to go out, when I've been working. Just doesn't work. Or hasn't so far. Putting her on your back and going for a half hour walk can work.
Anyway, I actually quite like the feeding time I have with her, so no pressure from me for her to wean.
Chavelamomela - March 14, 2012 02:27 AM (GMT)
I went away for 2 days (1 night) when ds was almost 2. He did great without me. He resumed nursing when I returned and continued to nurse for several more months.