Last year i asked my mum if i could take Ferdie to a show. She said I could, but it would have to be the next year (this year), due to holidays, Ferdie was ill etc.


So, this year arrives, i find a fantastic show to go to, I plan my classes, I provisionally hire a box, then i speak to my mum. She answers - "Maybe next year". So after a full on argument, she says that she only said last year that i could go to a show the following year to shut me up.

She basically does not feel that i'm good enough to take my horse (who i have owned for 13 years) to a show. I always used to show him as a child, and had no problems. But she has a way of making me feel that I cannot do anything well.

Usually i would not bother, and i would have given up. However, this show is something very important to me. I also want to show her that I can do it. Im not going to win, im going as im proud of my pony, and i want the chance to participate. Im only going to do in-hand classes. The show is in 2 weeks. Im fully aware that Ferdie is going to be no angel - but im prepared for this, and i know my limits.

I was going to take Digby as well, but obviously, without the support of my family, this is not going to happen, as i cannot physically keep my eyes on and hold both horses at the same time.

I have managed to persudae my auntie to come and help me, although this has annoyed my mum even more. But i didn't want to go along entirely on my own. Each time i go out for a ride, and Ferdie spooks - my mum comments on how ridiculous i am for wanting to take him to a show. I really would like her support and encouragement on something i want to do!

Honestly - do you guys think i should give up and not go? Or do you think I should persevere and go along and do something that I want for a change?? The more im spoken to and discouraged from going, the harder it is becoming for me persevere, even though it is something i really want to do!

Heeelp!